“I thought I could do it all...but I can't, not now, anyway.” This from Julia Braverman-Graham, the working mom on my favorite TV show – Parenthood (NBC, Tuesdays, 10pm/9pmCST).
What I love the most about this show is how well it handles the REALITY of parenthood. You laugh and you cry during this one hour show. You learn things. You enjoy.
Julia, soon-to-be partner of her law firm, has always handled being a working mom seamlessly. Recently, she and her husband Joel adopted an 11-year-old boy. (They already have a precocious 5-year-old daughter who is used to being the center of their attention.) So in last night’s episode, I was so happy to see Julia losing her mind. Not in a mean way. But in a relieved, sort of way. The noise that the children made, the chaos in the morning. She’s trying to juggle everything. And she’s the type that knows she can. She can do it all! Until she can’t. She has a slight breakdown during breakfast that frenzied morning and she’s been slipping up at work. So bad that the partners of the firm call her into a meeting in the middle of her son’s baseball game (Gasp! Her leaving the game shocks her large family who all lives close by and happen to have their schedules free to ALL be at this game – that’s the only thing about the show that is hard to believe. They all get together so much, so conveniently. Who knows, maybe that is real but just not my reality since I don’t live close to my family.)
Anyway, in the meeting they tell her, if you still want to be considered for partner, you’re going to have to give us all of you. You can see the hurt in her face as she wagers her own identity and goals versus her role as mom. But she knew, as we all know, you can have it all, just not all at once. Something has to give. So she said to them, heartbroken, but knowing she’s made the right decision, “I thought I could do it all...but I can't, not now, anyway.”
Reality! So many television shows, even the reality shows, have a hard time trying to get down to the root of what is so real. But Parenthood does it with finesse. I feel happier every time I watch an episode. You should tune in! Relatable brings relief.