“I thought I could do it all...but I can't, not now, anyway.”
This from Julia Braverman-Graham, the working mom on my
favorite TV show – Parenthood (NBC, Tuesdays, 10pm/9pmCST).
What I love the most about this show is how well it handles
the REALITY of parenthood. You laugh and you cry during this one hour show. You
learn things. You enjoy.
Julia, soon-to-be partner of her law firm, has always
handled being a working mom seamlessly. Recently,
she and her husband Joel adopted an 11-year-old boy. (They already have a precocious 5-year-old
daughter who is used to being the center of their attention.) So in last night’s
episode, I was so happy to see Julia losing her mind. Not in a mean way. But in a relieved, sort of way. The noise that the children made, the chaos in
the morning. She’s trying to juggle everything.
And she’s the type that knows she can.
She can do it all! Until she
can’t. She has a slight breakdown during
breakfast that frenzied morning and she’s been slipping up at work. So bad that the partners of the firm call her
into a meeting in the middle of her son’s baseball game (Gasp! Her leaving the
game shocks her large family who all lives close by and happen to have their
schedules free to ALL be at this game – that’s the only thing about the show
that is hard to believe. They all get
together so much, so conveniently. Who knows, maybe that is real but just not my
reality since I don’t live close to my family.)
Anyway, in the meeting they tell her, if you still want to
be considered for partner, you’re going to have to give us all of you. You can see the hurt in her face as she
wagers her own identity and goals versus her role as mom. But she knew, as we all know, you can have it all, just not all at once. Something has to give. So she said to them, heartbroken, but knowing
she’s made the right decision, “I thought I could do it all...but I can't, not
now, anyway.”
Reality! So many
television shows, even the reality shows, have a hard time trying to get down
to the root of what is so real. But Parenthood does it with finesse. I feel
happier every time I watch an
episode. You should tune in! Relatable brings relief.