Delivering Grace - Teaching Lessons That Will Last A Lifetime

“Grace,” our son said proudly with one hand folded into his other, fingers intertwined.   We probably shouldn’t have, but we laughed.  We had just started saying grace at our dinner table a few weeks ago.  Instead of doing the “Bless us, Oh Lord, and these thy gifts” blessing I had been raised on; my husband and I decided to start our own tradition of grace by simply giving thanks.  We didn’t know how long it would take to catch on, but we were ready to give it a shot with a three-year-old and a twenty-two-month-old who each seemed to be picking up on so much lately.  So three weeks into our new routine when our preschooler volunteered to say grace, my husband encouraged him.

“Great Luke!  Go ahead, you say grace tonight.” 

So pure, so blunt.  He said it.  “Grace.”  And like I said, we laughed.  It was beautiful and he was proud.  Then we clapped.

The next night he wanted to say it again, but this time we invited him to continue. 

“Say what you are thankful for.”  Sure we helped him out and gave him ideas.  “You could be thankful for your family.  Your brother.  Your food.  Your home.” 

He got it immediately.  “I’m thankful for my mommy.  My daddy.  My ZZ,” he announced as he looked at each one of us around the table.  Then he glanced down and mentioned our dog.  “I’m thankful for my Yukon.” He paused in a slump; he had run out of living and breathing blessings.  Then with an excited charge he concluded, “and I’m thankful for my ambulance.”  His new favorite toy.  He smiled. 

Impressed, my husband and I looked at one another and then back at him and said, “Amen!”  He repeated it and his little brother with his hands semi-clasped, said his best Amen.  Then we clapped and told Luke what a great job he did and gave his little bro some props too for his participation. 

A week later, at Christmas Eve dinner with grandma and grandpa, he suggested he say grace.  “Grace.”  Now he’s doing it just to get a hearty laugh from his dad, which is delivered on queue.  But he does follow it up being thankful for each of us at the table, even grandpa twice.  Then out of the blue, he says he’s thankful for his Aunt Kathy who actually couldn’t join us this year.  With all fairness, he hears her name often, undoubtedly earlier in the day. 

The brilliant part of all of this isn’t that a three-year-old is hamming it up in front of family, or that it’s cute that he’s thankful for a toy or a missed aunt, but it’s seeing the whole purpose behind our efforts to set an example for our kids actually work.  Things can actually click.  Maybe even before you know it.  But it’s happening.  And here we are just weeks after starting our dinnertime blessings and not only were they catching on, but they were really getting into it!  I know what you’re thinking…just wait a few years and see who’s excited to say grace.  Probably not two boys who would rather go play with friends or their new DS game (assuming DS is the thang in 2015).

I know my efforts can have a great impact on my children’s lives.  I know this, but it still astonishes me at times.  For instance, a few months ago I started explaining to my boys after I had taken them somewhere really fun, like Chuck E Cheese’s or the pool, that it’d be really nice if they said to whomever took them, “thank you so much for taking me there.”  When I started saying it, I always felt like I was talking to myself, as I glance in the rearview mirror to see them just looking out their windows, never saying anything back to me.  But I kept it up for several weeks, never really thinking it would work.  Then one day we were leaving the park and out of the blue my boy says it.  “Thank you so much for taking me to the park with all of my friends.”  I was so excited I wanted to cry.  It worked!  I couldn’t believe it worked! 

Ultimately, whether or not they will want to actively participate in saying grace as they get older, they will be learning to be aware of what they are grateful for.  As my husband and I continue to try to lead by example and show them that gratitude can come in many forms-be it family, food on the table, toys or even an event or a feeling; they will start to recognize it in their own lives away from the dinner table, throughout their every day.  They will be conscious of it.  As they experience things they will have an appreciation of what is actually enriching their lives rather than just taking things for granted. 

Sometimes they are the lessons that seem so simple.  And they can be.  These are the lessons that can last a lifetime.  But it’s got to start somewhere and be nurtured.  It’s up to us to deliver grace. Then we have one more thing to be grateful for.  Amen!

Or…Not Doing It All

I had to write a little follow up to my last article (for those of you that missed it, I included it below!), because, as usual…I’ve been doing some deep thinking on the matter.  It bothers me that I can’t figure out what exactly makes it all work…until I realized, duh!  I don’t do it all! 

The thought occurred to me as I went to go brush my teeth, with my electric tooth brush, that hasn’t worked for two months because it needs batteries.  All I have to do is walk into the kitchen and put new batteries in it…but of course, this is an extra five minutes I’m not willing to take.  Or, when I walked upstairs last night and realized why it’s so dark up there!  There’s only one out of eight light bulbs working!  And none of the lamps in our house have light bulbs!  Do you think they are on my grocery store list right now?  No!  I keep forgetting.

Callie needs bigger socks, and Clayton needs bigger jeans.  To continue the list, Callie also needs longer jeans…she’s been high-watering it lately.  I have pictures laying around upstairs—until I have time to finish paining, my car has crusted cereal stuck to the carpets, and I need to clean out my closet, my winter clothes are still in storage!

So, while my kids get a healthy, home-cooked meal every night, and most days my house is clean…the rest of my life is still a disaster, no matter how it looks.  But…over all it’s working!  I guess it’s just about knowing you can’t do it all.  And being perfectly okay with it, or at least, working on accepting it!

Doing it All

I am often asked by friends and family how I do it all.  They want to know how the heck I take two young children to two different places in the morning, make it to work, work an 8 hour day, then turn around, get both kids…head home…cook a home cooked meal, then clean the kitchen, give baths, story-time…etc, etc.  You get the point.

So I got all geared up to write this article.  And my fingers hovered over the keyboard for several minutes…and nothing.  How do I do it?  How am I not nuts…or, maybe I am nuts but how am I still doing it all.  I could give you my daily schedule, tell you I’m not stressed most of the time, that I have it all figured out and hold it all together.  That I know exactly all the secrets to time management and organization.  I know the tricks to multitasking and ultimately always get the job done.  But—that would be total BS!

There are days I wake up and am threatening to rip both my children’s heads off (you think I’m kidding!) if they don’t get a move on it.  Callie loves to sleep in and is a bear cat in the morning!  Clayton isn’t much better.  I can’t count the days I’ve driven to work crying because I was going to be late, the kids just weren’t cooperating, I’d forgotten Callie’s lunch, or all the other things that could and did go wrong that morning. 

There’s also been many nights I’ve had breakdowns because my house wasn’t clean.  I have serious OCD about my house, and can’t handle it being dirty or messy.  Working full time and having two young children makes this nearly impossible…but I can’t convince my brain.  So, Shannon being the great husband he is helps extra that night, giving baths and helping me fold the laundry afterwards. 

The top tips to making my household run smoothly, when it does, are simple: make your menu for the week, then your grocery list by aisle.  If you want to cook healthy meals, you should be shopping on the outer skirts of the grocery store mainly (dairy, produce, fresh foods).  Do a load of laundry every other night.  Enlist your hubby’s help to split chores, then pick one day consistently to do them.  Our day is Saturday or Sunday am for floors, deep kitchen cleaning, and bathrooms.  The hubby should also be helping for bath nights, story nights, whatever works for you.  If you are a working mommy, then you should not be doing it all!  Some husbands cook (mine doesn’t, which is okay because I love cooking!)  so you can trade off cooking nights as well.  Have a schedule on your fridge for groceries, meals (then you remember what meats to take out to thaw) what you need to remember for your kids backpack the next day, lunches…so on and so forth.  Crock pot meals work great for soccer and basketball practice nights. 

I think the best tip of all is knowing your limits.  I know the amount of me time I require and if I don’t get it, then watch out!  It can get ugly.  Another thing to note is that I have more energy than most people…I can do five things at once as long as it gets the job done.  It may not be up to your standards, but it works for me!  I eat, type, clean, talk,  and think faster than the average person, because that’s how I’m made!  I’ve given up trying to slow down, although many of my bosses and friends have told me I need to.  This is how I am, and it’s the reason for so many of my strengths, including being able to do so much.   If you are detail oriented, meticulous person…your list will just have to be much shorter.   You take the time to make sure everything is in order and perfect, thus, there is just simply less time.  This is good too!

In addition...some great advice a friend once told me…do what works for you; stop trying to be someone else or do things the way they do (I guess this means I’ll never be Martha Stewart!  Crap!)

Guest Bloggers, Causes We Believe In, Recipes, Mommy Advice and Humor... and Wine in 2012

We have a lot of exciting things coming your way in 2012.  We have a remarkable new direction in our book (wine lovers stay tuned).  Of course, we will keep posting our Anti-Chicken Fingers Movement recipes twice each week.  Our MomAhas! on Facebook and Twitter will keep you filled in on mommy tips- helpful and sometimes a bit sarcastic.  And be sure to look out for a MomAha! app for your phone in late Spring/early Summer.  Of course, we will be reporting to you monthly on our donations to Children’sMiracle Network Hospitals and National Children’s Advocacy Center.  All this in addition to our stories of mommyhood! 

In this new year, we want to be the voice of real moms…not just through our own experiences which we know you relate to; but through your experiences-battles and triumphs included!  Trina and I are excited to announce we will be regularly posting stories from featured guest bloggers.  So when Heather Von St. James contacted us with her inspiring story a few days ago, we couldn’t wait any longer to get moving on this! 

When her daughter Lily was just 3 ½ months old, Heather was diagnosed with Mesothelioma; a type of cancer that kills 90-95% of those who have it.  Today, six years later, she is cancer free and sharing her courageous story with other moms.  She is a source of hope and  inspiration to Trina and I-we know you will gain something from her story, along with a few laughs from this witty Minnesota mom.

Please check out Heather’s blog, and sign up to follow our blog to be one of the first to know when she posts on ours (also, we will donate $1 per new blog follower to the charities we support)!  If you have a story or experience to share with our readers, please e-mail us (see contact page).

Happy New Year, Mommies!

The Anti-Chicken Fingers Movement- Grandma's Chicken Pot Pie

Okay Friends, now that the holidays are over, we are back in business as far as normal Anti-Chicken Fingers Movement Posts, stories about our crazy mommy lives...and well, just Mommies Need Sleep Too stuff.  We are glad to be back!  This recipe is AMAZING.  It's a bit of southern yummy so the hubby was satisfied, but had enough veggies and (Shhh!  Don't tell!) lowfat ingredients so I felt good eating it.  Thanks Grandma Kim for a rockin recipe!

Ingredients:

1- Pillsbury pie crust  (red box, roll up kind, refrigerated)

1- Lg Onion (diced)

1- TBL Smart Balance Butter 

1- Cup sliced mushrooms

1-TBL of olive oil

1- Bag frozen bag of frozen veggies of your choice (we used peas, beans, corn, carrots)

1/3- Cup of Flour

1- Tsp salt

1/2-Tsp pepper

1 1/2- Cups Chicken Broth

1-Cup fat free 1/2 & 1/2 or 2% milk

3- Lg Chicken Breasts, Cubed

Brown chicken in olive oil till decently cooked through, remove from pan.  Brown onion and mushrooms in butter, in same pan.  Add chicken broth and flour, bring to boiling, then simmer till bubbly.  Add all veggies and salt & pepper until mixed well and semi-cooked through.  Add chicken, then pour into pie dish, with pie crust (uncooked) on bottom.  Top the mixture with the pie crust topper.  Cook at 400 for 30 to 35 minutes.

Enjoy Friends!

Merry Christmas Everyone!!

Why I Chose Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals 

If you read my recent post on the importance of Christmas memories versus the gifts you buy, you’ll know that this has been a tough year on my family financially.  But one thing I am certain of is that I am one very lucky woman.  I am aware of this day in and day out.  I’m so blessed to have had the gift to conceive without a hitch and then give birth to two healthy boys.  I continue to count my blessings each and every day with the health of my family. 

Just a few days after Trina and I posted about our search for a charity to support, I had a meeting with a woman selling advertising for a radiothon-a pitch I knew I’d be declining on behalf of my boss.  The sales exec detailed that the proceeds of the radiothon would be going to Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals, an organization which raises funds and generates awareness of for the benefit of children and local children’s hospitals.  She illustrated stories of a few children who have benefited from the donations to the organization and suddenly, I was wide-awake in a meeting I initially had little interest in. 

There are so many children out there having to fight for their lives.  Whether they’re two, eight or fifteen; whether its cancer, birth defects, a blood disorder, appendicitis or a broken bone –they are having to find strength and persevere through experiences and hardships I probably have never come close to.  These children are heroes.  And I decided I want to reach out to them.

A strong factor for me in choosing Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals is that donations could stay local.  Medical University of South Carolina Children’s Hospital, the largest and most comprehensive pediatric healthcare system in the state, is just fifteen miles from my front door.  As I plan to raise my children right here in Charleston, I would be proud knowing donations would stay in my community.  However, if you send a lot of followers our way (or not), shoot me an email and tell me which children’s hospital you’d like to see next month’s donations go, and I’d be happy to oblige.

To learn more about Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals, founded by Marie Osmond and her family in 1983, check out their national website.  Stories by the Network’s Champions will enrich your soul-read about the Champion of your state right here! 

Please sign up today to follow our blog.  Not only will our fabulous, often funny and overwhelmingly relatable stories come right into your inbox, but you will be touching a child and their family.  Extra karma for getting your friends and family members to follow us too! ;)

Merry Christmas to you and yours!

Cheers,

Leah

Why I Chose National Children’s Advocacy Center

What better day to talk about charities than Christmas day.  As I stare at my two beautiful and most importantly, protected and safe children open their gifts with anticipation and glee....I can't help but feel a tiny bit of sadness deep inside.  I can’t just spend this day with my family, enjoying such a wonderful holiday while also knowing that there are so many children out there who are abused…mistreated.  Maybe don’t even get a Christmas day because their parents are on drugs, or alcohol…or whatever.  I can’t simply just be on Christmas, or any other day. 

I look at my children, their precious faces…their innocence amazing.  And I think to myself…I would kill for these small beings.  I would do the same for your children.  I would do anything necessary to protect any child in the world.  So I’m putting my money where my mouth is and beginning here.  I urge you to join me!  Stop just being here…stop just living in your own little world.  I know all about it, because I’ve done it for years.  You can make a difference.  If you save one child from being beaten, sexually abused…ONE CHILD.  Even one incident of abuse, its well worth it.  It’s worth a lifetime of sending money, volunteering…whatever is necessary. 

The National Children’s Advocacy Center is the charity I chose due to my passion for protecting children.  Their website is here: http://www.nationalcac.org/.  Take a moment and check it out.  Ever dollar counts.  Their mission statement: Models, Promotes and delivers Excellence in child abuse response and prevention through service, education and leadership.  Also, one of their recent articles: Once again, child sexual abuse allegations have people everywhere shaking their heads in disbelief. Anger and frustration fill the airwaves, news columns, and blogs with questions like "How did this happen?" and "How did it go unreported for so long?"  Many organizations, including the National Children's Advocacy Center (NCAC) have responded to the Penn State Scandal. 

THEIR INFO ON GIVING:  One of the easiest ways that you can help the abused children served by the National Children’s Advocacy Center (NCAC) is by joining our Protectors’ Circle.  Abuse robs its victims of their childhood and the innocence every child deserves.  By making a financial contribution you are helping us better serve as a beacon of hope.  Please make plans to include the NCAC in your annual giving. Please contact Meredith Payne, Development Coordinator at 256-327-3783 or by email mpayne@nationalcac.org This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. for more information.

There are two easy ways that you can make a donation to the Protectors' Circle:

1. By giving online, you can not only donate the easy way, but you can manage your account and update your information, see previous donations, print off tax letters, register for events and much more!
2. Donations can also be sent by mail along with this form (online) to The Protectors' Circle at 210 Pratt Avenue, Huntsville, AL 35801

Merry Christmas from my family to yours...thank you for taking the time to follow our blog, to read our posts...we truly are blessed to have you all in our lives!

Trina

Holiday Recipe Spectacular - Side Dish - Connecticut Meat Stuffing

"Connecticut" because the recipe comes from my family's long-time friends The Ganleys.  We met them while living at Andrews Air Force Base when I was probably six.  Jim (from CT) and Diana had an older son close to my age and a younger son just about my brother's age.  Over the next few years, we spent many evenings and weekends with them.  Lucky me, that meant Star Wars, G.I. Joes and Transformers.  Barbie, who?  I wouldn't dare get her involved!  However, I remember it being endless fun hanging out with the Ganleys.  One visit I remember the boys' dad had built them a two-story "clubhouse" out of a couple refrigerator boxes.  We had a whole afternoon of fun!  They even visited us in Hawaii for a week when the boys and I were in our teens.  I haven't seen their sons in a good ten years, but Jim and Diana came to my wedding and sometimes they're with us on vacation and I really enjoy them...just like an aunt and uncle to me.  So cheers to the Ganleys, from my family to yours!  And Merry Christmas to everyone reading this!!!

Connecticut Meat Stuffing

• 1 lb. ground round
• 1/2 lb. pork sausage
• 4-serving instant potatoes
• poultry seasoning to taste
• sage to taste
• "Pie Crust Topping, opt."

Brown ground round & crumbled sausage. Drain. Prepare instant potatoes as directed. Fold into meat mixture. Add seasonings. Place in greased casserole dish. If desired, prepare pie crust topping and cover meat mixture. Bake @ 350 degrees for forty minutes. May be baked ahead of time and heated up in microwave.

Holiday Recipe Spectacular -Best Sugar Cookie & Frosting Recipe

These cookies are a must on Christmas!  My friend gave me the frosting recipe for cakes...but my family loved it so much that we use it for our holiday cookies as well, is spreads thin & easy on the cookie
making decorating simple.  If you want to make this an even quicker recipe buy the bagged sugar cookie dough mix!

Cookies:                                                  

Ingredients

• 1 1/2 cups butter, softened
• 2 cups white sugar
• 4 eggs
• 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
• 5 cups all-purpose flour
• 2 teaspoons baking powder
• 1 teaspoon salt

Directions

1. In a large bowl, cream together butter and sugar until smooth. Beat in eggs and vanilla. Stir in the flour, baking powder, and salt. Cover, and chill dough for at least one hour (or overnight).
2. Preheat oven to 400 degrees F (200 degrees C). Roll out dough on floured surface 1/4 to 1/2 inch thick. Cut into shapes with any cookie cutter. Place cookies 1 inch apart on ungreased cookie sheets.
3. Bake 6 to 8 minutes in preheated oven. Cool completely.

Butter Cream Frosting:                                        

Ingredients:

1/2 Cup of Butter

1/2 Cup of Crisco

1 t. Vanilla

4 Cups Powdered Sugar

3 T. Milk

Directions:

Cream together butter and crisco. Add vanilla and milk and mix.  Add 1 cup of powdered sugar at a time,  mixing on medium speed until well blended.  Whip until lightly fluffy (for cakes, you whip until really fluffy)